This post is not intended as a stand-alone guide to the choice of a husband. It is just something I feel inclined to share with you as regards your choice of a husband.
Many a girl considers every other important factor before she says ‘yes’ to a guy but leave out this crucial matter.
Like you probably already know, a husband is the authority in the home. By virtue of his position in that home, he commands your respect and leadership.
So, just before you give that response in the affirmative, I want you to answer the following questions sincerely:
Do you consider this guy man enough to have the rule over you in your home?
Do you consider him wise enough to be your head?
The place of the woman in the home is not to usurp authority over the man. She is expected to submit to him.
This submission is not a one-off act; it is a lifestyle you would have to imbibe for the rest of your life.
I am definitely not an advocate of suppressing the woman in the home in the name of submission but I do understand that there can only be one captain in a ship.
Replete in the scripture are statements that suggest that the husband is the head of the family. Paul writing to the Corinthian Church stated that:
‘…it is important for you to keep this fact in mind, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man…’ (I Cor 11: 3 BBE)
The Message Bible puts it this way ‘In a marriage relationship, there is authority from Christ to husband, and from husband to wife.’
So, before you tie that knot, I hope you consider that young man wise enough to take the lead in your home?
If you don’t, then you have to put a break there and start off with working on your mind set. Maybe there is something wrong with your view about him or the concept of submission.
You need to take out time and get that settled, otherwise, you will battle with submitting to his authority for the rest of your married years.
The reason why a lot of women find it difficult submitting to their husbands is because they consider their judgement not good enough.
You’ve related with this guy for some time now; you must have seen him demonstrate leadership in more than one occasion. So, it’s important you ask yourself, what do I think about this man’s judgement?
If you find it difficult to agree with him, please do not go ahead. It will save you a lot of stress in your marriage.